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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life by Dr. Thomas Jordan

Genre: Relationships | Pages: 132

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Intro of the book by Dr. Thomas Jordan:

After 30 years of clinical research and treatment of patients with unhealthy love lives, Dr. Thomas Jordan has recognized that most people aren't actually in control of their own love lives. Why? Because most people don't know how to identify and change what they've learned from the love relationships in their lives. In Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life, you will learn how to make real--and lasting--improvements in your love life.Starting with the family into which we're born, we learn from all the love relationships in our lives, especially the unhealthy ones. Learn to Love will show you how these experiences help to form a psychological blueprint that controls the love life experiences we have as adults. If what you learned about love relationships was healthy, you'll replicate this and have a meaningful and satisfying love life. But if what you learned was unhealthy, chances are you'll continue to make the same love life mistakes over and over again. Learn to Love will show you how to unlearn this unhealthy learning and form the love relationships you've always wanted to have. The simple formula presented within the pages of this book has helped many of my patients begin taking control of their own love lives, as well as helping me improve my own love life. Learn to Love will help you learn how to take control of your love life.


What do we do when we notice ourselves sabotaging our relationship?

This is a question that a lot of us will sadly have to struggle to face at some point in our lives. The good news is that there is no shortage of smart, thoughtful people out there offering advice on this subject. I recently read a book by Dr. Thomas Jordan that I think is particularly useful and I hope that it gives you some comfort in your relationship if your facing difficulties in your relationship especially in these challenging times.

This book is not just a book that shares knowledge. It invites the reader, and the two people in the relationship to engage in a process that will help them to resolve conflicts and become more conscious. Reading the book without committing to the process will have far less impact on your couple than if your follow the process. But the information in this book is still very useful, even if you do not do the exercises.

The author begins from the root of the problem and unveils the truth about our lives, that we probably would not have recognized at all and helps us identify and work on unlearning some of these things in our relationship. If you’re struggling with an issue, that struggle is real—even if you think that your experience feels insignificant when compared to the experiences of someone who survived something much worse. I will limit myself from sharing the content of the book as my inexperience in the field and tone might dilute its essence.

This book is enormously powerful and abundant in knowledge for individuals and for any couple that wants to develop, flourish, grow and uncover themselves and each other in a new light. The tools that Dr. Thomas offers are effective and formidable with touching stories and exercises that helps in bringing about awareness and changes that is an important part of a relationship required for anyone to grow spiritually. Furthermore, I recommend you buy this book and fully do the exercises that will have a much greater impact on yourself.

About the Author:

Dr. Thomas Jordan is a psychologist in New York City who specializes in helping people with "repetitive love life problems." and has now written an easy to read, short (107-page) book -that would serve as a ”guide” showing readers how to make the “psychological changes” that will dramatically improve their love lives- as he always wanted to.

Know more about the author and the book on his website:

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